“Waow, this is exquisite. I love this, thanks for making this happen dear.” She said as she sat on the seat he pulled out for her. Immediately their order was taken, she brought out her phone from her bag. To his utmost dismay, she stares fixated and engrossed as she taps, swipes and caresses her phone. She was barely looking at him whilst paying little attention to his conversation. “Intimacy is hard to achieve when your phone keeps beeping with alerts and notification.” He said to her.
It isn’t absurd to have the feeling of excitement, nervousness and uncertainty growing slowly in the pit of your stomach. Come on, IT’S YOUR FIRST DATE.
There is the probability that your first date will have a crazy outcome – it can either be good or bad.
There are no solutions for the red flags that comes with a first date but as the saying goes thus, ‘Prevention is better than cure’.
Hence, below are the 6 red flags which if present on your first date means either you should be careful or run as fast as possible.
1.THEY ARE LATE:
Traffic and public transportation problem are inevitable for most people.
If your date is more than 15 minutes late and doesn’t seem to care that you have been waiting for a long while or even bother to call or text, consider that a first strike because that is lack of respect for the other person’s time.
2. THEY ARE TOO BUSY WITH THEIR PHONE:
If your partner’s phone is their third wheel on a first date – it’s a red flag, just like the example in the first paragraph.
In this jet age, when humans pay more attention to their phone than the person who is talking in front of them, they are either bored or least interested in the conversation which is taking place.
If they aren’t explaining the reason for their lack of attention towards you, it is actually a turn off. The first date is meant to learn new things about each other and if they aren’t interested in your thoughts or views then everything else doesn’t matter.
3. NO FUTURE GOALS:
They have a job but they don’t have a clue about what they’d rather be doing with their life.
There is entirely nothing wrong with having no specific future goals but if you are someone who has pre- planned goals in life, then your partner must be someone whose plan inclines with yours.
4. THEY CRITICISE AND TALK ABOUT THEIR EX A LOT:
When they complain about being ditched constantly, it is actually a type of emotional manipulation.
If your date is bringing up their ex on your first date, then the reason is clear, they are not over their ex.
5. THEY ARE CONFRONTATIONAL:
Topics like religions, politics and other taboo topics are bound to come up on a date. But if a healthy debate turns into a one-sided screaming match, it is safe to cut off with such a person.
It is okay to agree and disagree on some topics but you shouldn’t take offenses when someone doesn’t agree with you on some things.
6. THEY DON’T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HUMOUR AND INSULTS:
People who naturally have a good sense of humour don’t confuse them with insults.
There is a very thin line between humour and insults. There is no reason for your partner to step on someone just to appear funny on the first date.
Like making dry jokes about people around you. For example, the staff of the restaurant or the couple sitting beside you.
All the aforementioned points are secondary considerations, your primary consideration will always be your INTUITION.
If you feel you can deal with it, follow your heart but if not, simply walk away.