The Adventure in a Lifetime: Love Making or Sex?
Lovemaking, the rush of blood through the nerves and veins of the human body, the feeling of ecstasy, fulfillment of an adventure in a lifetime.
Oftentimes, a lot of people, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman, cannot distinguish between two rather different acts, that is, lovemaking and having sex.
Lovemaking or sex is both an art and act of enjoying an intimacy of the private part with a sexual partner.
Sex is an instinctive and bio-mechanical act and everyone can do it.
On the other hand, making love is considered to be a sensual, slow, and not goal-oriented act that gives us the opportunity to experience the metaphysical being of oneness, and it is considered to be an art in itself.
As said earlier, everyone can engage in sex but the act of introducing foreplay before the insertion of the genitals in both male and female sex parts is lovemaking.
Animals are not known to engage in a kind of foreplay before sex.
Therefore most believe that people who engage in sex without foreplay are considered not to be having sex like the way humans do.
Hence, fulfilling a sex life and a successful romantic relationship should contain little of both.
As explained by the WHO, sexual health is a state of mental, physical, and social well-being in relation to one’s sexuality and it requires a positive and respectful outlook to sexuality and sexual relationships and an ability to enjoy sexual experiences without coercion, violence, and discrimination.
Foreplay is a set of emotionally and physically intimate acts between two or more people meant to create sexual arousal and desire for sexual activity.
Although foreplay is typically understood as physical sexual activity, nonphysical activities, such as mental or verbal acts, may in some contexts be foreplay.
Some common sexual behaviors that are considered foreplay are kissing, sexual touching, removing clothing, oral sex, certain sexual games, and role-playing.
Psychologically, foreplay lowers inhibitions and increases emotional intimacy between partners.
Physically, it stimulates the process that produces sexual arousal. Foreplay has important physical and psychological effects.
In a global study of about twelve thousand individuals from 27 countries and 6 continents, physical foreplay was rated as “very important” for 63 percent of men and 60 percent of women.
There are different and varieties of sex styles and positions with more and more innovation coming as people like to explore new ways of deriving maximum satisfaction in sexcapade.
Different styles and positions in lovemaking/sex
There are different and varieties of sex styles and positions with more and more innovation as people like to explore new ways of deriving maximum satisfaction in sexcapade.
Do It: Near the edge of a bed or bench, rest on your hip and forearm and press your thighs together. Your partner stands and straddles you, entering or grinding from behind.
Why: Keeping your legs pressed together during this sex position allows for a tighter hold on your partner as they thrust.
Make It Hotter: Instead of letting your partner do all the work, try thrusting your hips slightly to match the tempo.
Do It: Your partner sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; you face them, seated on their lap.
Why: During this sex position, you’re in control of the angle and depth of the entry and thrust. Being seated adds support, so it’s great for marathon sex sessions.
Make It Hotter: Let your fingers (and hands) do the talking. Once seated, you can put your hands anywhere on your body or your partner’s to make things more interesting.
- Doggy Style
Do It: Get on all fours, then have your partner kneel behind you, with their upper body straight up or slightly draped over you (ya know, like a humping dog).
Why: This sex position allows for deep penetration and easier G-spot stimulation.
Make It Hotter: Stimulate your clitoris with one hand, or ask your partner to do the finger work for you.
- Pretzel Dip
Do It: Lie on your right side; your partner kneels, straddling your right leg and curling your left leg around their left side.
Why: With this sex position, you get the deeper penetration of doggy style while still being able to make that important eye contact. Or, if penetration isn’t your thing, your partner can easily grind against up against you stimulating your clit.
Make It Hotter: Get your partner to rub your clit. Because, duh.
Do It: Lie facedown on the bed, legs straight, hips slightly raised.
Why: This sex position creates a snug fit, so your partner’s penis or strap-on will seem even larger.
Make It Hotter: Some shallow thrusts and deep breathing will help the romp last longer.
Do It: Lie back with your legs resting on each of your partner’s shoulders.
Why: This sex position is awesome because when you raise your legs, it narrows the vagina and helps target your G-spot.
Make It Hotter: Ask your partner to start rocking you in a side-to-side or up-and-down motion. That should bring the penis or strap-on into direct contact with your G-spot.
- Cowgirl’s Helper
Do It: Similar to the popular Cowgirl sex position, you kneel on top, pushing off your partner’s chest and sliding up and down the thighs. But your partner helps by supporting some of your weight and grabbing your hips or thighs while they rise to meet each thrust
Why: This sex position puts less stress on your legs, making climaxing easier. Plus, if you’re with a guy, female-dominant sex positions delay his climax—so everyone wins.
Make It Hotter: Alternate between shallow and deep thrusting to stimulate different parts of the vagina.